Let’s talk about sex
Actually let’s talk about purity.
A couple nights ago was the first time I have ever been put down for choosing to save all of myself for my future dude. And although I wasn’t ashamed, regretful, or tempted in the slightest bit… my heart hurt for the individual that thought that something worth great value wasn’t worth treasuring and preserving.
Now please bare with me while I dive into a matter that I believe needs to be addressed. Because I don’t believe that it’s talked about enough in today’s culture.
In the beginning God created man and he said it wasn’t good for man to be alone. So from mans side, he created woman. God told Adam and Eve to repopulate the earth. Hint hint – he told them to have sex. Now. This was the first time this has happened. Like ever. So let’s dissect this. Adam and Eve were joined in a covenant (aka marriage) and they were completely naked in the garden. Mind you, they didn’t feel any shame yet. There was no sin. They both walked in purity. Some may say they had it easy because there was no one else to lust after. To me Eden has always meant “the way God intended” I believe that God intended sex for marriage. I learned this not too long ago in counseling. Allow me to break it down for you. We as humans are emotional human beings. So when you have sex a hormone is released, causing a connection between both individuals. So instead of constantly breaking off soul ties and being in and out of counseling, God meant for it to be sacred and under a covenant. Also because it’s something of value. But I also believe that, that is not the only thing God is asking of us with that covenant.
I was talking with a friend a couple weeks ago and she had told me that she went to a conference that talked about this matter and it really upset her about the false information that was given. The message that she received was ultimately that when you’re married, it’s a free for all. I believe that Believers and especially non believers are misinformed on how this is supposed to go down. Male and females.. please please grasp this. You are not only to protect your persons heart before “I do”, but for every moment before and after. It should never stop.
Here’s the deal, Adam didn’t do his job. He didn’t protect Eve’s heart in the midst of the enemy. But Eve also didn’t protect Adams heart either. We see what happens after that. This shows the heavy importance of why we must protect our persons heart.
If you’re like me and I’m the waiting for your person, protect your heart. Most people think that just because they didn’t have sex before marriage that they’re in the clear. While I would congratulate you, I would also ask how your walk in purity is going. Because the reality is, if you’re watching scary movies and they’re affecting your dreams… imagine what else your watching that’s affecting your dreams and your thoughts. What are you listening to? What are you talking about with friends? How do you approach the opposite sex? What are you doing to fight for purity? To me, I think it is much more honorable to live a life of purity rather than managing to get by for your wedding night.
There’s another side to this that I want to touch on.. recently my friend told me through tears how scared she was to tell her husband one day all of the times she stumbled. I asked Jesus what he would want me to say in that moment. He told her, there’s grace. There’s always grace. So whether you’ve messed up 117 times or 1 time, grace is reaching his hand out for you.
I want to end this with a promise. If you’re in the waiting for your person, don’t give up in the waiting. Please don’t settle. Your heart has great value and your soul is worth more than gold. You’re treasured by the creator of the universe. You’re worth saving and you’re worth being saved for. You’re a son and a daughter of the king, own that. Walk in purity, it’s a hard walk but it’s so worth it. I have to believe that it is. Understand that there’s grace, but please be kind to it.. don’t abuse it. The father adores you. I adore you.
Daughters, know that you’re a daughter of the most high with the most high value. You’re worth being pursued and waited for. You are deserving of a man of God, don’t settle for anything else. Waiting gets lonely, but press into Jesus. Ask him what he wants to show you in this time of singleness. I ask of you that you would ask God how you can be the best you for your person. Walk in truth.
Sons, you’re the leader of a household. That comes with great responsibility. As a daughter, I ask of you that you would be lead by the great leader and learn from him. Walk in purity and view girls the way you’d view your sisters. Please be gentle with our delicate hearts. You deserve a woman of honor. Please please wait. I can’t imagine that you’ll regret it. You have what it takes and you’re well waited for.
“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things.”